Infidelity or affairs
Many people come to therapy because of an affair, infidelity or cheating.
It is vital that you (both) understand the real reasons why it happened.
Relationship counselling explores what had been going on between you in the time leading up to the affair. This can be very painful, but helps you know what went wrong, so you can change things in the future. Be patient: rebuilding trust can take a while.
Affairs, infidelity or cheating usually arise in a relationship that already has some underlying problems which have not been addressed. This can be hard to accept, especially for the person who may feel betrayed. Relationship counselling can help the person who looked outside the relationship understand what they were seeking elsewhere.
How can relationship counselling help?
- Gaining understanding either as a couple or on your own about how you’ve arrived at this point and importantly how you want to move forward.
- Gathering insights so that if you remain together you will have a deeper understanding of yourselves. If you separate, you will know that you had the courage to face the truth, and will be better prepared for future relationships.
An affair can also have destructive effects on your family, children and friends. Even so, an affair does not always mean the end of your relationship. With hard work, commitment and patience, it may be possible to come through this crisis changed, but also stronger.
What helps strengthen a relationship after cheating?
- A mutual commitment to focus exclusively on each other.
- The desire to really talk and listen to the other person.
- Create a new future together which you both truly want.
- Consider any sexual problems or differences.
If you want to look at whether to stay together or separate, then relationship counselling can be really beneficial.
Contact us for support.